NightVision - This is part of an email in which David M replies to one of his students question. It contains good online dating tips and quite hilarious cocky and funny lines.
Picture this scenario.
You send an email to a woman…
She responds back.
You send another email asking for her number (using my 2nd email technique) and she DOESN’T respond with her phone number.
Ever happen to you tony?
WHAT MOST GUYS DO?
They tend to freak out and their confidence is shaken because they were thrown a curve-ball.
EXPECT WOMEN TO TEST YOU RIGHT AWAY!
If you understand, and EXPECT this to happen right from the get-go, then you’re prepared for what should happen.
Odds are you get freaked out because she DIDN’T follow what she was 'supposed' to do… which was give you her phone number.
SHE DIDN’T FOLLOW YOUR LEAD
You’re not sure what to do as a result because you’re not prepared for this situation — and you don’t want to potentially ruin anything that might be there,
So you revert to your alter ego…
WUSSIE MAN, and completely ruin any chance you had with this woman.
tony, If you do feel the need to revert to your inner wuss, do this: Slap yourself upside the head and get back to reality for a second because you can no longer be a wuss.
It’s VERY unattractive.
And quite frankly you have no reason to turn into a wuss again because you haven’t placed any value on this woman… right?
After all, she’s just another email and face UNTIL she proves to you that she’s worth more.
tony, YOU are the prize, and you need to make a woman EARN your attention and time.
She doesn’t respond with her number,
WWDD? (What Would Dave Do?)
I’d email her back, only this time… I’D WAIT 3-4 DAYS TO REPLY BACK!
Why? Because lets face it, you don’t want to come off as needy, insecure or desperate.
It’s all about perception.
I’m punishing her for not ‘Complying’ with what I asked for — and therefore, I’m not giving her THE PLEASURE of talking /emailing with me.
Waiting is in your favor, plus it makes her freak out a bit, she’s wondering what’s going on, if she messed things up with you, etc.
Wait too long however, and the tension is lost, so you don’t want to overdo it. (Don’t worry, I’ll teach you all of this stuff)
Since she didn’t respond with her number, it gives you PERFECT ammunition to bust on her!
USE WHAT WOMEN GIVE YOU
I’m going to assume she emailed you back, and continued with the usual stuff that most women write…
Respond to her email, but do NOT go into details, make sure to keep it short and then you can TOTALLY bust on her for not giving you her number.
WHAT WORKS IN THIS SITUATION?
Here are a couple of my favorite themes I’ve used to bust on women in this situation (with great success I might add).
‘I know why you didn’t respond with your number, it’s totally cool if you don’t have a phone… we can talk using smoke signals or something.’
‘NOT PAYING YOUR PHONE BILL…’
‘Listen, about the phone, It’s really nothing to be embarrassed about and it doesn’t really change the way I think of you…
You know, about you not paying your phone bill…
I have an idea, we could start a collection for you around the neighborhood or something to hook you up.’
‘THE POINTS SYSTEM’
Tell her she just lost 5 points for not following your last email and she’s blowing it.
When you use the concept of ‘You’re blowing it’ with a woman, you set up the frame of, I’m selecting you.
Which is very powerful.
Most guys simply give a woman too much value, and she knows she’s got the guy whipped!
There’s no challenge for her. (Challenge, another one of the 5C’s)
Try making it into a challenge (in a FUN, cute way), busting on her for ‘NOT FOLLOWING ORDERS’ is a fantastic way to do it.
And don’t forget, you can continue doing this shtick in person too!
Listen tony, what good is getting a woman to respond to your e-mail if you can’t get her phone number?
What good is getting her phone number if you don’t know how to carry on a conversation and get her to agree to go out on a date with you?
What good is getting a date if you don’t know how to get to hold her hand, kiss her (or get her to desire you)?
You get my drift.
Having a killer profile — but no killer strategies when sending out e-mails or making the first phone call or going on the first date — can lead to incongruence, which equals dating failure.
You gotta know what to do every step of the way.